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Showers & Sprinkles
I posted before about how excited I am about being thrown a baby shower but now I have some questions about showers and I wondered what you all think.
I’ve always thought of showers as girly occasions but now that mine is being organized I’m considering making it Jack & Jill. I know Husbando is not overly fussed about oohing and ahhing over teeny tiny items of clothing but I’m wondering what to do about my close male friends. I spent most of my 20’s hanging with boys, in fact I had just as many ‘bridesmen’ at my wedding as I did bridesmaids. These are guys who have definitely had a hand in who I am as a person and I treasure our friendships. These days the dynamic has shifted slightly and we rarely spend as much one-on-one time together as we did but thankfully they have all married well and I adore their wives - so when we do get together I hang with the wives and Husbando hangs with my guys. So how do I handle the situation with them? I would hate to exclude them because they are so important to me but I also don’t want to make them uncomfortable if the topic turns to vajayjays!
My thinking now is if we do Jack & Jill then we’ll all be able to spend some time together but that the two camps will eventually split off and the girls can coo over little itty bitty clothes and the guys can all go shoot zombies on the PS3! So what do you think? Reasonable compromise? Dads - would that make you feel weird or would you be happy to be included?
And while I’m picking your collective brains - what do you think about showers for baby number two? Several of my girlfriends are now pregnant with their second children and it seems slightly weird to me to not acknowledge the new baby in some way. Traditional etiquette says second showers are a no-no but is that attitude just old fashioned? Should we sprinkle the new baby and mother to be with love and gifts instead of showering them? What do you think?
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I dunno re 2nd baby cuz I do find it weird that they’re not acknowledged, but for the 1st one, I’m having a Jack n Jill - but a non-shower in every way cuz I’m weird that way. I have close guy and girl friends and I want them all included, but I’m also not into ooh’ing and ahh’ing in front of groups, so for me it’s a big ol’ drinking-fest where people can come celebrate for us. If they want to bring gifts, great, and if not, that’s okay too. I just want people to be excited and hang out and share - no games or weird bow hats. But you could do a modification of this where you have it as a general party, but there’s a girly corner to ooh and ahhh and do that stuff without making the guys want to run screaming:-). Just be clear on the invite how it’ll work or the boys will not want to come, cuz they’re boys, and well, they can’t help but not want to be involved in a baby shower.