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Need Help With Controlled Crying
My in-laws are visiting this month. So far, it’s been very nice as they’ve been helpful with household chores and taking care of the kids.
Before they arrived I was nervous that my mother-in-law would be too controlling. Last time they visited us, she had to have her say in everything parenthood related. As examples she would say, “Don’t give him that food, it’s too hot” or “He needs a jacket with that”. She is very sweet but is always giving advice, even when no one asks for it.
Regarding breastfeeding, I am still doing it. Our daughter is 9-months-old today and thriving! She recently has been standing on her own for a few seconds too! I can’t believe it! The only downside lately is that she hasn’t slept in her crib in a week! Funny how this correlates along with the in-laws visit.
Every time I place her in the crib she cries so now I end up leaving her in the bed with me and my husband. Since I need sleep I give in. I do want to practice more Controlled Crying though. On the Supernanny web site it says this:
1. Wait five minutes before going back to the room. Make your check brief and any interaction minimal. Don’t touch, pick her up, or cuddle her – simply say, “Mommy/Daddy is here, go to sleep” and then leave, even if he is still crying.
2. If she’s still crying after 10 minutes, repeat the procedure.
3. If she’s still crying after 15 minutes repeat the procedure and continue to repeat it every 15 minutes until she’s asleep.
4. If she starts to quieten down, wait to see if she’s starting to settle to sleep – if you go in at this point you may disturb her. If she starts to cry loudly again, start your checking again.
Last night I made the mistake of checking in on her when she quieted down and she started screaming again. Oh well, no one said this was easy otherwise advice wouldn’t be on the Internet!
I’m just grateful the grandparents are here to help with my son, who is loving the attention at night time. They are my own super nannies.
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